Emotional Needs!!!

Emotional Needs!!!

Humans have emotional needs, just as we have physical needs. Some of our emotional needs are to feel accepted, appreciated, important, valued, cared about, understood. All humans share these needs, each differs in the strength of the need, just as some of us need more water, more food or more sleep. One person may need more freedom and independence, another may need more security and social connections. When a person's natural emotional needs are met, healthy behavior naturally follows. In various degrees of life, our needs are grown, developed and changed according to the present stage. Though all of us have many emotional needs but the most basic needs to me are Accepted, believed in, cared for, forgiven, loved, Safe, supported, Trusted, understood and Valued. All these are the most powerful basic emotional needs. According to the education of psychology, if these ten needs are adequately met with, a person is actually in a dream world but unfortunately many instead most of us don't even get to think of having such ideal situation. 

Though these ten needs are top ten emotional needs, but besides them our needs differ and varies from each other. I may have such needs those May not be important in your view, and your needs may not be important in my eyes. It actually also depends on the stage of life we are going through. In adolescence and childhood emotional needs are small and easy but as we step into teen age and maturity our needs get even complicated, higher and difficult to meet with. So all of us try our best, using all kinds of tools, ways and tricks and many of us get to meet with our needs but sometimes we fail. 

This is the time when we are under a high pressure. These re the moments when a man totally loses hope. He sees darkness everywhere around him and he loses his self control . Things appear as if darkness is prevailing everywhere. At this spot, a man feels himself a looser, he does not want to do anything but just to sit idle and think of the person who he really is attached with because we feel so alone and want someone to be with us and off course our most beloved personality is the one. And now it depends on the person how he or she leads us? Whether in a negative way or in a positive and constructive way. Mostly people are mislead due to misguidance of leaders. 

Lucky are those who have wise and pessimistic companions. According to my concept, if anyone is attached with Allah and seeks help from Him it is the best solution to keep your moral high and stable. Those who have firm believe in Him are the most successful person in both lives because He cannot mislead anyone, instead He is the best leader. 

Talking to Him, sharing with Him and putting all your matters in front of Him will not only solve our problems but also will satisfy us. He has promised us to give us if we seek, and also have ordered us to ask from Him even the little thing. As we all agree that psychology is the scientific study of emotional state of mind, it deals with all kind of emotional and mental states, and almost all popular psychological school of thoughts are one in this point that spiritual study makes a person well prepared to face the emotional and psychological disorders or challenges. So I believe the most important and affective solution to all of our emotional problems, emotional needs and emotional challenges is religion.

 

You see the people ?

they are miserable because they have compromised on every point, and they cannot forgive themselves because they have compromised.They know that they could have dared, but they proved cowards. In their own eyes they have fallen, they have lost self-respect. That´s what compromise does?

Law of Giving and Receiving...

This law could also be called the Law of Giving and Receiving, because the universe operates through dynamic exchange. Nothing is static. Your body is in dynamic and constant exchange with the body of the universe; your mind is dynamically interacting with the mind of the cosmos; your energy is an expression of cosmic energy. The flow of life is nothing other than the harmonious interaction of all the elements and forces that structure the field of existence. This harmonious interaction of elements and forces in your life operates as the Law of Giving. Because your body and your  mind and the universe are in constant and dynamic exchange, stopping the circulation of energy is like stopping the flow of blood. Whenever blood stops flowing, it begins to clot, to coagulate, to stagnate. That is why you must give and receive in order to keep wealth and affluence or anything you want in life circulating in your life.

My Beloved..

My heart wants to throw your image off from within and cast aside the heartless one.it has deceived me.what has my heart done to me.Now I’ll slowly bear those memories and the lights of hope that have been put off.i will cast off your memories slowly. you broke the traditions of love and oaths of desire.The moments of pain don’t pass,The throb of love does’t leave the heart,,you let me alone with a bevy of memories. wherever I go I find you.This broken heart is proud of the feeling called faith…That all the false dreams will crumble slowly…Will make me forget you slowly,my beloved…The wounds of love ‘ll heal slowly… My steps will stope gradually.your memories ‘ll fade gradually.

Dealing with Death

Everyone deals with death in a different way. Death is a natural part of the life cycle and we all have to face it. Coping with death is never an easy task to do and no matter how much you prepare, it's always a very emotional and sad time but accepting the predictable doesn't have to be difficult if you alter your perception.

Some Tips:

Here are some tips which you can try to help you prepare for your loss

1.     People have a false perception of how they should react to death. Accept death by being open to feeling vulnerable. It is not necessary to be strong and sturdy.

2.     After dealing with a tragic loss, don't go into denial, this will make things worse for you.

3.     Grieve properly by going through the entire process. Accept death by allowing yourself the proper amount of grieving and time to deal with the many feelings you experience.

4.     Cry as often as possible. There is nothing wrong with crying. Let it out as much as you can. Bottling it up inside will also make it worse.

5.     Get mad. It is part of the grieving process, and you must go through it before you can accept death. Even if you are dealing with the thought of your own death, it is okay to get angry. You must get past this phase in order to accept death.

6.     Being alone in your time of loss is not healthy. Make sure you have the support of family and friends. If you do not have any family and friends available try to go out in public so that you are around people, but you don't have to talk to anyone since you don't know them.

7.     Open a dialogue and let people know that it is okay to discuss this touchy subject. Discuss death with your loved ones. It is impossible to stave off death by avoiding the topic. Be open and honest and let those close to you know how you wish to have your death handled.

8.     List your feelings about death. Free write every thought that comes to your mind. Whether it is the death of someone close to you, or your feelings about your own death, get your thoughts down. Ponder on the results.

Divorce after Effects

Your mindset and beliefs will play a big role in how you adapt and succeed in your life after divorce. When you are in the middle of the divorce process, it can be hard to imagine a life after divorce. Especially a fuller and rewarding life… you will get past all the lawful, fiscal and emotional aspects of divorce unbelievably and things will eventually get better. Looking forward with hope during the divorce process will help you cope with the stress of divorce.

Don't Panic! It might be natural but it’s not productive. If you let it to control your life then it can lead to make life so thorny after divorce.

Troubles and Tips:

The factors that mostly emerge after divorce are:

• Grief of losing a person which was once closest of all will be really painful… However grief is a procedure not an endpoint.
• Another chief crash of divorce is losing friends. Friends may perhaps decide sides or even left you both altogether. Finding new friends can lead you to new experiences and a renewed sense of purpose and enjoyment.
• Married life often leads us to feel very stable & secure and we set long term goals in place. Divorce pulls that all apart. But it’s a part of life all goals are not meant to be met.
• Divorce disrupts the whole family unit if you have children, you may have less time with the kids or if you have custody, you may have to adjust to the level of support you now have. Again managing a family after divorce is a matter of being flexible and adaptable and it can be done successfully. By making your transition and showing how life can go on, you will show your kids a new path and help them adapt.
• Divorce is costly and divorced families are often more expensive to maintain. However keep in mind that money and happiness are not tied together.

Divorce is a process with an end and you can make it through and have an even better life after divorce. Divorce can present opportunities for new careers, going back to school or pushing your current career further. Divorce teaches us that life is disruptive and rarely remains the same. Many divorced parents have succeeded in raising good and productive kids under difficult circumstances and you can do that too.